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bumm
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Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot
      #5964746 - 07/10/13 09:03 PM Attachment (67 downloads)

This is my own private rant... Maybe just a chance to blow off steam. I live in a very small town, (pop. 1400) in rural Iowa. I'm in the last house on a dead end street on the edge of town. Years ago, I had no trouble observing fairly dim DSO's from my yard. In recent years though, the church about a block west of me, has exercised it's right to keep it's parking lot lit all night, every night, with multiple unshielded sodium vapor lights, wiping out the view of maybe two thirds of God's universe. I call the rectangular floodlight mounted right in the middle of the building "Hell's Blowtorch."
I've casually talked with some active members of the church, but I don't want to be a jerk. As I get older though, I'm beginning to feel more cantankerous...
Just venting...
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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: bumm]
      #5964757 - 07/10/13 09:17 PM

Surely you can talk to them about saving energy by using shielded lower wattage lights, motion detectors, etc. The IDA should have plenty of info.

Oops, it looks like they left one bright star or planet visible in the pic.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: StarStuff1]
      #5964832 - 07/10/13 10:17 PM

if its not against town codes, they have to be willing to accept the change. Your only option is to try to persuade them. Until then, HPS filters out pretty well, LPS very well.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: derangedhermit]
      #5965295 - 07/11/13 08:28 AM

As the Former Head Deacon of my church - let me just say..

Most likley - they dont have a policy and dont even think about it.

Drop by when someone is there and ask for the Pastor and / or Head Elder / Head Deacon.

Just explain things and ask if there is anything that can be done. Most churches are very accommodating if you play nicely.

Heck - if you offer to help out mowing the lawn or some other simple thing they may even give you a key and let you turn them off as needed.

Churches are in the business of making nice with their neighbors - at least mine is.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: bumm]
      #5965310 - 07/11/13 08:39 AM

Quote:

I've casually talked with some active members of the church, but I don't want to be a jerk.




Talking with the person in charge of the church is the only way to see if anything can be accomplished. They are no doubt completely unaware that the lighting is so disturbing to a resident. Go backed up with literature of how much they can save by turning them off at night, or if they won't do this, have some pictures & pricing of light shields. There's all kinds of useful information in this forum for members to use.

If you don't want to go this route, then I'd suggest building LP screens for observing.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: bumm]
      #5965369 - 07/11/13 09:19 AM

Warning: I am about to Offer A Strong Opinion... those of weak constitutions, as well as those who tend to faint easily, should stop reading at this point.

Quote:

This is my own private rant... Maybe just a chance to blow off steam. I live in a very small town, (pop. 1400) in rural Iowa. I'm in the last house on a dead end street on the edge of town. Years ago, I had no trouble observing fairly dim DSO's from my yard. In recent years though, the church about a block west of me, has exercised it's right to keep it's parking lot lit all night, every night, with multiple unshielded sodium vapor lights...




Beg pardon? "Exercised its right"?? They have no right to maintain a nuisance on their property; get your mind right on that point, regardless of the "go along to get along" mindset that seems to pervade the LP discussion.

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I've casually talked with some active members of the church, but I don't want to be a jerk. As I get older though, I'm beginning to feel more cantankerous...




Of course you don't want to be a jerk, because you aren't one. However, in case you haven't noticed, jerks rule the world... the trick is to act like one when necessary, without becoming one. If the church is reasonable, fine, be the complete gentleman... but if not, all the supplication and kow-towing in the world won't be as effective as being a real... well, you know.

Yeah, I know it's a small town, and you have to live there, etc., etc.... but there does come a point where lines have to be drawn at what one will tolerate. "Faint heart never won fair lady", and all that...

Fred


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: amicus sidera]
      #5965504 - 07/11/13 11:06 AM

It is a bit ironic if one considers the verse, the heavens declare the glory of God, since in this case a church is muting that glory. However, never correct a cop or preach to a preacher. My experience has been that people are as sensitive about their lights and presumed right to trespass with them as they are about their own sweet mothers. You could offer an observing session to the youth group of the stars, constellations and planets mentioned in the Bible. You could also offer to pay for and install light shields. Whatever diplomatic approach you pursue, also prepare for your next move should you fail to persuade them. Good luck.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: amicus sidera]
      #5965621 - 07/11/13 12:29 PM

I agree with Fred here. There are ways of being firm without becoming a Jerk. Simply not trying out of fear of offending others just feeds the bully mentality. Now, I’m not saying that the church is being a bully and I’m sure that a respectful discussion can be had; but just in case one must be ready to be firm. Too many times I have seen the one who yells the loudest win!!

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: Eric63]
      #5965692 - 07/11/13 01:19 PM

Do a star party for them.




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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: galaxyman]
      #5965707 - 07/11/13 01:31 PM

IMHO ESCHER made some very valid points here altho, of course, others have too.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: StarStuff1]
      #5965941 - 07/11/13 03:48 PM

Had a neighbor that started leaving her back light on. The light shined onto my yard. I went several times but she was never there.

I ended up writing her a letter with pictures showing her lighting up my bedroom. The light has been off for a few days. Hopefully she understood. I mentioned nothing about astronomy. Telling someone the light bothers your sleep is much better than telling them it bothers your hobby.

Just my 2 cents.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: hfjacinto]
      #5965985 - 07/11/13 04:12 PM

That's a good point. A new neighbour moved in across the street last week and she uses 100W bright white bulbs in her outdoor lights. I think I will tell her that it shines in my son's room. Now, if she's smart she will argue that the street light on her property is worse .

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: csa/montana]
      #5966118 - 07/11/13 05:44 PM

Amen! I'd be very surprised if they intend to bother or offend anyone. The idea of offering to do a stargazing session is a winner. You can show them the problem, show that you're a reasonable person, and also let them know that you are around, serving as a volunteer security system/good neighbor that they probably didn't know about. My church just put up a 2nd on-all-the-time light because of one member's security worry. The power company loves to almost give you the light to sell electricity.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: kfiscus]
      #5966939 - 07/12/13 08:25 AM

Yeah, I didn't mention I sleep with a blanket over the bedroom window...

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: bumm]
      #5967000 - 07/12/13 09:13 AM

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Yeah, I didn't mention I sleep with a blanket over the bedroom window...




Well, until your situation is brought to the church's attention; you will see no change.

I would at least make an effort to discuss the LP with them, as they have no clue without it being brought to their attention. As I said in a previous post, there is ample information on this forum you could print out for them to read to help them understand the situation.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: csa/montana]
      #5967719 - 07/12/13 04:01 PM

Just showing them the picture you posted might be enough. Perhaps the Lord then will sayeth to them "Let there NOT be light."

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: Mxplx2]
      #5967758 - 07/12/13 04:33 PM

In the beginning, there was darkness....

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: csa/montana]
      #5967889 - 07/12/13 05:58 PM

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As I said in a previous post, there is ample information on this forum you could print out for them to read to help them understand the situation.




Excellent suggestion! I think that this is key... The general public is mostly unaware of light pollution and it's effects, and the more pertinent data that you can bring to bear on the issue (within reason - one shouldn't inundate them!), the better.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: csa/montana]
      #5968815 - 07/13/13 10:51 AM

Quote:

Quote:

Yeah, I didn't mention I sleep with a blanket over the bedroom window...




Well, until your situation is brought to the church's attention; you will see no change.

I would at least make an effort to discuss the LP with them, as they have no clue without it being brought to their attention. As I said in a previous post, there is ample information on this forum you could print out for them to read to help them understand the situation.



Agreed.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: star drop]
      #5968903 - 07/13/13 12:12 PM

Send the picture to the local paper as part of letter on light pollution. Use a catchy subject line like the heavens share gods glory and local church is lit up at night more like a prison camp to blot it out. A little shaming can be helpful.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: amicus sidera]
      #5969004 - 07/13/13 01:20 PM

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The general public is mostly unaware of light pollution and it's effects,





I laughed. I offered to bring my scope to a family gathering at my elderly father's home. (Where we have all such gatherings). My father was one of the most excited about looking thru the scope. His idea of a good place to set up the telescope was along the side of a somewhat busy street next to house... to which I replied.. "isn't that right under a street light?"

His response: "Yeah, but it's not very bright."

I think that really sums up most peoples postion & understanding on the subject.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: Phil Cowell]
      #5969278 - 07/13/13 04:33 PM

Quote:

t. A little shaming can be helpful.




Not if the OP wants a positive outcome here.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: Phil Cowell]
      #5969629 - 07/13/13 09:11 PM

Quote:

Send the picture to the local paper as part of letter on light pollution. Use a catchy subject line like the heavens share gods glory and local church is lit up at night more like a prison camp to blot it out. A little shaming can be helpful.




Well, I'll probably go with a little diplomacy first...


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: bumm]
      #5969660 - 07/13/13 09:36 PM

Agree with the previous pair of posts. These guys aren't trying to create a problem. They think they're solving or preventing one. Patience, persistence, and education, all offered in as polite a manner as possible. If that doesn't work, you can try more insistent tactic, but if you start out by being confrontational, you've slammed the door on ever getting them to understand that there's a better way to light their property.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: desertstars]
      #5970108 - 07/14/13 09:31 AM

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Agree with the previous pair of posts. These guys aren't trying to create a problem. They think they're solving or preventing one. Patience, persistence, and education, all offered in as polite a manner as possible. If that doesn't work, you can try more insistent tactic, but if you start out by being confrontational, you've slammed the door on ever getting them to understand that there's a better way to light their property.




+1

Let's remember, the OP has not even addressed this LP to the people in charge of the church yet.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: csa/montana]
      #5970167 - 07/14/13 10:35 AM

I agree shaming isn't going to help, but mentioning you're just trying to see all of god's glory may.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: wirenut]
      #5970224 - 07/14/13 11:27 AM

To the OP: Just an idea... See if you can get those in charge to turn off the lights one night and join you at your observing site. Arrange to have someone back at the church with his/her hand on the light switch. Let them get a sense for how the sky looks nice and dark, then make a call and have the lights come on. The difference should make the point as clear as it can be.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: desertstars]
      #5970240 - 07/14/13 11:41 AM

The old saying "a picture is worth a thousand words", certainly applies to this suggestion! Not only would the demonstration show how LP affects the night sky, the OP may very well interest others in astronomy!

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: bumm]
      #5970619 - 07/14/13 04:03 PM

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In recent years though, the church about a block west of me, has exercised it's right to keep it's parking lot lit all night, every night, with multiple unshielded sodium vapor lights, wiping out the view of maybe two thirds of God's universe.




Quote:

These guys aren't trying to create a problem. They think they're solving or preventing one. Patience, persistence, and education, all offered in as polite a manner as possible.




Quote:

Amen! I'd be very surprised if they intend to bother or offend anyone. The idea of offering to do a stargazing session is a winner. You can show them the problem, show that you're a reasonable person, and also let them know that you are around, serving as a volunteer security system/good neighbor that they probably didn't know about. My church just put up a 2nd on-all-the-time light because of one member's security worry.




All the above quotes to set up a key point: SOMEONE influential within the church perceived significant need to light up the parking lot, lobbied members and the board for it, and persisted in pushing for it until they succeeded in getting the lights installed and turned on. BOTTOM LINE: Someone influential within that church "owns" the notion that the lighting project was important, and may thereby feel a substantial vested interest in resisting any sort of change that implies that the project (or the need therefore) was a mistake, or that the way it was implemented was so flawed as to require wholesale change.

I'm not saying those who advise that the church leaders may turn out to be reasonable and amendable to persuasion (especially by a star party event) are wrong...that's exactly how the OP should start out going about approaching the problem. However, don't underestimate the potential for a faction within the church to mount resistance to change, even if the pastor etc. seem at first receptive to your approach.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: FirstSight]
      #5970807 - 07/14/13 05:27 PM

It will not be known whether or not the person(s) in charge will react positively or negatively, until they are at least given the opportunity to agree or disagree with less/better lighting in order to preserve the night skies.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: csa/montana]
      #5970942 - 07/14/13 06:22 PM

Isn't it really up to the OP to simply contact the church, arrange to meet with the Senior Pastor, and then discuss it in a calm, and non-confrontational manner? It surprises me how many posts in this thread reflect a belief that the OP will not only meet with resistance to his request, but that he may even make an enemy or two in the process! The idea that the OP might want to consider coming out with guns blazing seems a bit heavy handed to me. The OP should just meet with the Pastor, explain his situation, and be ready for a little give and take if necessary, without being defensive, or belligerent, and especially without mentioning anything about religion at all!

So, rather than for everyone to jump to conclusions, perhaps we should just wait to see how the OP does when he meets with whomever is in charge? It has always been my experience that others will usually respond to me in the way that I expect them to. Why? Because my expectations tend to determine how I initially approach them, and the manner in which I approach them usually sets the stage for their response, whether good or bad. The monster I'm afraid I will face, in the end usually winds up being the one of my own making!

And so it goes...


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: mayidunk]
      #5971335 - 07/14/13 10:32 PM

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Isn't it really up to the OP to simply contact the church, arrange to meet with the Senior Pastor, and then discuss it in a calm, and non-confrontational manner? It surprises me how many posts in this thread reflect a belief that the OP will not only meet with resistance to his request, but that he may even make an enemy or two in the process!




WADR both you and Carol misunderstand the purpose of the advice some of us have given. Agreed that the OP should start by making a tactful, constructive approach to the pastor. Agreed that neither he nor we will know what the church's response will be until after he has actually approached them.
1) It's indeed quite possible this will lead to the church and its leaders being willing to work out a mutually acceptable solution to the issue, with little to no opposition from any faction of leaders or members within the church. So I agree he shouldn't be presumptiely pessimistic when he approaches them.
2) Nevertheless, there is alternatively a quite realistic possibility the OP will encounter resistance, most particularly from the folks within the church who cared enough about the light project to feel invested in it. By anticipating this possibility before approaching the church, the OP has a much better chance of tailoring his approach in ways that helps disarm potential opposition before it arises, by makeing him come off to them as respectful of their concerns and willing to find a reasonable accomodation that satisfies their needs, while still reducing his LP problem.

He's only going to get ONE chance to make a positive first impression with the SEVERAL people he will need to successfully influence to achieve any kind of mutually acceptable solution. Simply presenting constructive ideas and hoping for the best from human nature, while ignoring the potential internal political dynamics that may exist within the church with respect to the lighting, is naive. I'm not discounting the possibility that may be enough of itself to lead to a positive, satisfactory solution...but OTOH the better the possibile issues are thought through BEFORE making first contact, the more likely the chance is of disarming any potential opposition before they get their back up against it, and of reaching good solution with them.

Edited by FirstSight (07/15/13 12:01 AM)


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: FirstSight]
      #5971389 - 07/14/13 11:04 PM

I grew up in small town Iowa (a town of 800 people). Back in the 1970s we had 4 churches in town and a good number of people would belong to each church. The last thing you want to do is to be confrontational in a small town that you live in. I agree about talking to the church and letting them know the problem. It would be great to put it in monetary terms that they could save a lot of money and help the environment by only having the lights on in the evenings that there is a church event. They probably would be willing to change if they could save money and the environment.
Also the idea of saying that if they have the lights out and it is dark enough for me to observe that I would love to host a star party for one of their youth groups is a good one.
If this route fails I believe in the be nice and wait a bit and try again. Living in a small town is a lot different then a city and it requires a different approach.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: Wade J]
      #5971843 - 07/15/13 08:53 AM

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Living in a small town is a lot different then a city and it requires a different approach.




Very true. Having lived most of my life in one such hamlet or another, I'm well aware of how remarkably easy it is to torque off the locals, who seem only too happy to focus their anger and hatred on anyone they deem a troublemaker, whether the label is merited or not. Sadly, small towns seem to attract and/or produce a sizeable percentage of comparably small minds.

It might be wise for the OP to focus on the fact that the offending lights are shining into his windows, rather than interfering with his stargazing; if the church fathers are anything like the general public, they may well get the impression that the OP is an astrologer, e.g., an occultist of sorts in their minds, and not an astronomer... needless to say, a misunderstanding of this nature will tend to get things off on the wrong foot.

Hopefully the OP will be able to reason with the church fathers, although it has been my experience that, in general, reason is not the strong suit of the individuals tasked with running churches in this Laodicean era. One should also be aware that, for the most part, the elders, and not the pastor, run the church... and, in addition, to be aware that the elders are in turn run by the elderettes.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: amicus sidera]
      #5971878 - 07/15/13 09:21 AM

+1 to the comments about small town dynamics and the importance of taking that into account in dealing with the issue. I grew up in a small town.

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One should also be aware that, for the most part, the elders, and not the pastor, run the church... and on addition, to be aware that the elders are in turn run by the elderettes.




Fred hits the nail on the head about the need to go into approaching the church with awareness of how its internal dynamics may influence your chances of success, however constructive, reasonble, and attractive the proposals you present may seem.

Edited by FirstSight (07/15/13 09:46 AM)


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: FirstSight]
      #5971883 - 07/15/13 09:26 AM

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WADR both you and Carol misunderstand the purpose of the advice some of us have given.




I did not misunderstand the purpose of the advice given; rather I would assume anyone in this situation about to approach someone about their LP, that they definitely have the knowledge that the reaction could definitely be less than positive, and be prepared in their presentation to cover all the bases possible.


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: amicus sidera]
      #5972083 - 07/15/13 11:45 AM

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Living in a small town is a lot different then a city and it requires a different approach.




Very true. Having lived most of my life in one such hamlet or another, I'm well aware of how remarkably easy it is to torque off the locals, who seem only too happy to focus their anger and hatred on anyone they deem a troublemaker, whether the label is merited or not. Sadly, small towns seem to attract and/or produce a sizeable percentage of comparably small minds.







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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: csa/montana]
      #5972182 - 07/15/13 12:49 PM

I also agree with what Fred said about being prepared. My point was merely that, when going into a negotiation one's mindset has the very real potential of influencing how the other person perceives us, which can have a very decisive effect on the outcome.

Edit: One other thing I probably should have added earlier is that, the crux of the matter is no matter how hard you may try to keep your mindset from affecting how you present yourself, or your case, your mindset is going to reveal itself in the form of non-verbal communication, i.e., by way of body english, certain tells, the tone, and inflection of your voice, and the manner in which you deliver your words. Those to whom you present your case may not be able to quite put their finger on it, but they can usually tell when something just doesn't seem quite right, and that's what puts them off. (Think the first televised Nixon/Kennedy debate.)

Sheesh! As I get older, I seem to find it a bit more difficult to express myself, which tends to get me in trouble!



Edited by mayidunk (07/15/13 06:28 PM)


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: mayidunk]
      #5975220 - 07/16/13 11:15 PM

I grew up in a larger city, and I've spent the last 38 years in this small town... I disagree with the notion that small towns attract small minds. Maybe a higher percentage of "individualists," but people are very similar everywhere I've been. Often, bigger cities seem to be composed of many smaller neighborhoods that function socially almost like small towns themselves.
I think the main thing to watch out for in a small town is stirring up hard feelings... It's a little harder to disappear into a crowd, and you tend to see people on the street more often. A spat can be more likely to become a grudge.
As some have pointed out, the people involved in planning this lighting disaster probably have some effort and pride invested in it, and may even feel like they're doing the community a favor by lighting it up. I feel my best chances to make an improvement will involve a generous dose of tact, ie, "letting the other fellow have my own way."
There have been a number of good comments and suggestions in this thread. I'm definitely going to make a move and try to improve the situation, but I feel it may be best to keep my eye out for an opening to bring it up instead of just approaching someone out of the blue. Thinking...


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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: bumm]
      #5976466 - 07/17/13 05:38 PM

I was thinking about this thread a while ago. If I were the OP I'd go to the church and say "hey could you turn that light off? I can't sleep at night with it on!"

When they say "close your shades" say that "I like a little bit of starlight and I don't want a pitch black room." Don't even mention astronomy. Chances are they don't realize just how annoying that light is.

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Re: Church of the Perpetually Lit Parking Lot new [Re: obin robinson]
      #6000190 - 07/31/13 03:18 PM

Does this church have a large, well heeled congregation? It might be worth including some figures on
xxx lights times
xxx wattages times
xxx hours per day times
xxx rate for electricity
= xxxx thousands of dollars per year additional electricity.

If you don't get many visitors showing up in the wee hours of the morning, isn't there something charitable you could do with that money?


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