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Don't mention astronomy at first if you don't feel comfortable doing so. Concentrate on how it disturbs your sleep and privacy by entering your windows.

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This portion of your post is just not good advice for two reasons:
1. Giving false reasons puts one in a bad position if the falsely stated reason is addressed, but not in a manner that takes care of one's real concern. And, in this case, light entering the bedroom can easily be blocked by a curtain. I would be wondering if my neighbor is trying to start something or is being deceptive with me if I was approached with this stated problem. And, I'd be right.
2. In this particular case, the false reason actually is raising the stakes. It is MUCH more personal to assert that another is interfering with one's sleep than with one's astronomy. I would say if one does not feel comfortable bringing up astronomy, then don't make up another reason, especially a poor one.

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