I figured it out. I used the "Sky and Viewing" options (F4) to get the display all set up with gird lines, labels and such. I closed that and then opened "Configuration" (F2) and clicked "Save Settings".
Now Stellarium opens facing North at the current system time and with grid lines, labels, and such.
I guess sometimes you just need to tweak the "operator's head spacing" just a tad....
I do have a question about the Occular plug in.
It seems to work in that the FOV and calculated magnification change as I toggle through my list of EPs, but the object magnification does not appear to change.
Is this something the plug-in's author needs to address?
I have same question on Ocular plug in , I add new telescope data but it seems to always default to top of the list (EP#1, Telescope C1400 ) .
Might want to add a simple lined FOV for various EP/sensors, just red outline against sky .This way you can see how object fits against different EP/sensors etc .