I can clearly see the room for improvement. I saw folks installing multiple temporary light barriers in front of neighbours lights on their property. Making a rolling roof shed. Building domes. All that blocks pretty much all of the issues you have mentioned. Tiny property? No resources? Wear the eye patch, deep red glasses, and observe from under the light impenetrable cover. Use NB filters at the low mag for nebulae, switch to a higher mag to observe galaxies (at high mag the background is dark even in the city and you want to see details, not just blobs as in the smallish refractor). Yes, the adaptation will degrade in about 3 minutes anyway. But in that 3 minutes you will be enjoying so much better views with the 8" Dob than in a $3K 3.2" that I can't believe you could try saying something like the above ever again . After that, just sit away from the EP in the dark for 15 min relaxing to regain the adaptation.
In addition, a refractor or CAT is harder to protect from the stray light compared to a reflector. The front blend need to be enormous, flocking is not viable, while a 8" already has an uber long blend, just add flocking and improve the rim if it's too low (on a 8" it usually is).
Sure thing, there are places totally impossible to observe, e.g. the reflection of the light from the urban smog might be untolerable. The best action in such conditions is to open Internet and book a campground. That's what the OP doing right. I bet, he just needed an excuse to get a 4" refractor, as that Meade 102 achro with the GEM and tripod is actually heavier and bulkier than a typical 8" .
When in a grey-black LPZ, I don't mind passing cars as being on alert for them I'm aware one is approaching like 10 minutes before it could do any harm. So 5 min later I just put on deep red glasses, sit in my recliner with my back to the expected approaching direction, and keep my eyes closed until I hear it passed far enough. Additional darkness adaptation and eye relaxation instead of the anger! Thank you driver! So sad they are passing only two - three times over the course of the night, as my places are really remote. As I could use a couple more relaxing breaks I'm otherwise skipping.
Edited by halx, Yesterday, 06:41 PM.