I've considered the Ethos, especially as it weighs the same as the Delos. That bothers me. New price is not an option. I just put out a wanted ad, you never know, you're not gonna catch any fish if you don't cast the line. I also have a wanted ad for a 3.5mm Delos, but no bites so far in 3 weeks. The Ethos would make a sensible progression to my Morpheus with its FOV.
Definitley consider the Ethos. I've had both the Delos and XWs. I prefer the XWs but both are excellent and as others say most people have a hard time seeing any difference. Having a case full of XWs or Delos you have some of the best eyepieces around. I only prefer XW over Delos because it was more comfortable for me. But I moved on from my XWs because my most used scopes are my small refractors and ergonomic wise a Pan 24 and the T6s work better "for me". But I am thinking a long the same lines as you that for my bigger scopes I might as well get Ethos over XW or Delos because the size/wt is relatively the same and you get 100 AFOV. The 15mm eye relief is perfect for non-glasses. I only have the 17E right now but I'm working on the rest. Not cheap but worth it.