I understand the issue that the mechanical center and optical center of a mirror may not be coincident. But I suspect in most RC's that difference is small and inconsequential. I also own the SkyWave software that gives you accurate collimation without relying on a mechanical center spot. After using my laser collimation tools, I found that SkyWave could not improve my collimation, at least within the limits that my seeing imposed.
-Dan
A lot of owners of inexpensive RCs would disagree with you. Me included.
I started by centering the secondary with a Cheshire. Went through hours of collimation, first with an artificial star, then with real ones.
After that I was in good collimation (at least until I changed the altitude). Went back to the Cheshire. As expected it showed misalignment. As planned, I ignored it.
It's like the AVX mount. People who got good ones just don't understand how frustrated the owners of bad ones are.