... a few months ago a bought a (second-hand) telescope just to see ... a AZ bresser 70/700.
In the end i made quite a few modifications - new tripod and AZ head to be more stable ...
Sounds like a pretty nice telescope once you finished your modifications. For what it's worth, my first "serious" telescope was also a 70-mm refractor, and my first major project was using it to observe all the Messier objects. I started by looking out the window of my city apartment, then moved to my local city park to get a wider view of the sky, then to suburban parks, and finally to my country home to observe the very faintest of the objects.
Unlike you, I had the good luck to start in the winter, when most of the available Messier objects are bright open star clusters that look quite spectacular even through very small instruments. It sounds as though you had the bad luck to start in early spring, at the very beginning of galaxy season. Galaxies are tough for beginners to spot even under dark skies and through big telescopes, and you clearly had neither dark skies nor a big scope. So you started out with a series of failures, which is understandably depressing.
Now that the summer is upon us the sky is dominated by globular clusters, which are relatively easy to spot, bright open clusters that are even easier to spot, and nebulae that range all the way from ultra-bright (M17) to ultra-faint. So things will be getting better for you from now on.
After I had finished my first pass through the Messier objects, I purchased a 7-inch Dob, and repeated the whole thing using that scope side by side with my 7-inch Dob. The result was my Urban/Suburban Messier Guide, which I think you will find useful.
According to some app, i live in a bortle5 area.
Bortle ratings obtained from apps are invariably over-optimistic, sometimes by a modest amount and sometimes by a huge amount. My guess is that I would rate your site at Bortle 7 or worse. And that's assuming there are no bright lights nearby. All the apps can give you is an estimate of the background skyglow. If there are streetlights or neighbor's lights (or, heaven forbid, your own lights!) shining on your observing site, you will never get sufficiently dark-adapated to see much of anything.
There's a fundamental divide between sites where the Milky Way never visible, like my city apartment, and sites where the Milky Way is visible when its brightest parts are reasonably high in the sky. That should certainly be true from any true Bortle-5 site, and also -- with a bit more experience -- from a Bortle-6 site. See here for John Bortle's original article.
If your site is too bright to see the Milky Way, your views of most other galaxies are going to be pretty lack-luster even through the very biggest telescopes. All a telescope can do is make an object appear closer than it really is, and no galaxy can be closer than the Milky Way, which is all around us. So if you can't see the Milky Way, you're not going to see the outer regions of any other galaxies, either. And without their outer regions, most galaxies are just tiny, faint, featureless, blobs.
Since i was not pleased, i started to look at other telescope options, but i ended up borrowing a AZ go to Skywatcher 127 MAK.
And finally, here is the dilemma i have - at least to me ... with both telescopes side by side ... using my 68 degrees eyepieces i honestly don't see any difference. MAYBE Vega is brighter ...
Individual stars don't make very interesting targets, unless they're doubles or triples, which Vega is not.
The Moon likely should indeed show quite a bit more detail through the bigger scope, but you're probably not pushing either scope very hard there. Which is understandable, because even through a little 70-mm scope, the amount of detail visible on the Moon is quite overwhelming.
As for other deep-sky objects, you just don't happen to have hit one yet where the difference in aperture is obvious. Globular clusters like M3 look pretty much the same -- bright circular blobs -- until you hit the threshold where individual stars begin to appear. After that, every increase in aperture makes a big, big difference.